“Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.”
– 1 John 4:11-13
When we first hear the term “love triangle,” We automatically think of two people in a committed relationship and one of those adults is involved with a third person in a love relationship. Love triangles among adults can be very damaging and hurtful to the people involved.
However, God calls us to a love triangle. The Bible tells us that if we are in a love relationship with God, we ought to love our brothers and sisters in Christ. He goes as far as saying that if we love God whom we do not see, but then hate our brothers in Christ, then we are liars (1 John 4:20). Ouch! God doesn’t just call us to love Him but to love His people as well. The Body of Christ is the Bride of Christ and we cannot love the Groom without loving His Bride. He just won’t accept that.
So what does it look like to love God’s people? First of all, we can’t pick and choose who we will love from His people. He calls us to love everyone who belongs to Him. Secondly, loving His people means we want God’s best for His children. If we do not desire God’s best for another brother or sister, we are blatantly sinning against God. Thirdly, we are to hold no grudges or unforgiveness in our hearts towards others. In the Lord’s Prayer, Jesus tells us to ask God to forgive us in the same way we also forgive others (Matt. 6:15). That’s a pretty tall order, isn’t it?
So does loving other believers mean we allow them to continue to hurt us? Do we become doormats for people? Not at all! Loving another believer doesn’t mean we allow them to abuse or hurt us. That is not love! If we are being abused by another Believer, we find protection quickly. If there is someone that is hurting us, we go to them in love and follow the Matthew 18 model. If they do not listen, we distance ourselves from them. We do not hold grudges but ask God to change their hearts. We release them to God and move on with ours without any hatred or bitterness in our souls towards them.
Like it or not, God calls us to be in a love triangle. He tells us that if we love God, we must love our brothers and sisters in Christ.
Pray: Lord, please forgive me for not loving others as You would want me to love others. Fill my heart with Your Love for your people and help to love them as You would want me to love them. In Jesus Name I pray. Amen.
Director of Women’s Ministries
First Baptist Broken Arrow