God Doesn’t Create Half People
“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.”
– Genesis 2:24
Recently, I was asked to do a breakout session at a church on the topic of singleness. One of the points I wanted to share with the single women was the fact that God doesn’t create half people; He creates whole people. I often hear married couples introduce their spouses by saying, “This my better half…” In reality, God never said that two halves become one in the Bible. His equation is this: 1+1=1. He brings two whole people together and through their union creates a special “one.” This verse is not only for married couples but for singles as well. Let me explain…
God doesn’t create half people. If you are single, you are a whole human being with your own set of thoughts, desires, habits, and patterns. Another human being cannot possibly complete you. God is the only One who can complete me because I lack spiritual life. He is the One who changes my attitudes, my world views, and has authority over my affections. No other human being can complete me. I’m whole and complete in Christ and so are you. If you are seeking a marriage partner to make you happy, or to complete you, it will not happen. You will find yourself disappointed in every potential marriage partner. Let Christ love you to wholeness and completeness. Then look for someone who will complement your strengths and weakness and who will parallel you spiritually. Look for someone who will be a suitable partner in life.
For my married friends, please remember that Christ made you whole and complete and brought another whole and complete person in your life. God’s desire is not to form your spouse into your image, but the image of Christ. When God united you to your spouse, He created a special “one.” The most important elements through the process of becoming this special “one” are mutual love, respect, and patience. Allow your spouse to be “whole” in their thoughts, patterns, and desires all the while working on becoming that special “one.” If your spouse decides to go astray, you can’t control that. If your spouse is not quick on learning the spiritual disciples, you can’t do anything about it, but pray. God is the One who molds people and changes people. You can pray for them, you can lovingly encourage them and you can inspire them. You need to commit them to the One who can…and that is Jesus Christ! Just remember, God created you whole and created you to follow Him.
For my single friends: Lord, I pray You will help me to love my singleness. Satisfy me with Your love each morning. Love me to wholeness and completeness in You. Help me to trust You in all areas of my life, especially my singleness. In Jesus Name I pray.
For my married friends: Lord, thank you that my spouse and I are whole and complete in You. Help us to not look to each other find our completeness, but rather look to You. Help me to know I’m responsible for my own actions and attitudes and my spouse is responsible for his/her actions and attitudes. Help me to know how I can lovingly encourage and inspire my spouse. Help me to know what my responsibility is to create this special “one” between us and give me the strength to fulfill it. In Jesus Name, I pray.
Director of Women’s Ministries
First Baptist Broken Arrow